In between

Good afternoon,

I am sorry that I have been away for some time.

So far, We have moved to Dammam. I work at an Aviation Academy, where I teach English to females and males for two years before they move onto flight training. My thyroid levels are back down, I am losing weight and I have just bought a new car.

We moved to a good neighborhood in Dammam. it’s close to the mall and it’s in a very convenient location. I am part of a big group of women married to Saudis and some of them are even half Saudi/ half American or another nationality. We get together from time to time. My older son has finally made a few friends. He will be going to school in September. I’m still trying to convince him to go to school here because it is much safer.

I started working for CAE Oxford Saudia last year. It has been a great experience and I actually love it there. We are all a big family so it is more like my second home. I started teaching males a couple of months ago which, at first I was hesitant to do so, but I find it easier than teaching females, They are much more relaxed, respectful and grateful. We are on break right now for Ramadan, thank God for that because  I told myself I would never work during Ramadan again.

As for my thyroid, my levels were at 40 and I found an amazing Tunisian Dr. who actually knew what she was doing. My levels are back down to .65 which is great to hear, Thanks be to God. She recommended that I start taking insulin to start losing weight since it is so hard to lose weight with hypothyroidism. It is supposedly a very popular weight loss scheme here in the middle east. So far, I have lost 2.5 kg’s in 4 days. I am happy because I desperately need to feel like myself again. I have gained so much weight in this country.

Finally, my car. I am a proud owner of a 2019 Dodge Durango RT.

It has some spunk to it and I am ok with that. I actually love it. For a woman in Saudi Arabia, you need to be seen in a nice vehicle and I don’t want to sound picky or self centered, but I don’t want to be seen in a car that I don’t like. Queens need to make statements and I have noticed that I am making statements.

I have yet to decide what comes next in my life, there is so much that I want to do but everything involves money.

If only money could grow on trees.

ma salama!

Carmen

 

 

 

Would You Rather….

Would you rather be a stay at home mother or a working mother?

I have been both at separate times and I wish I could be both at one time.

What’s the difference?

As a stay at home mother, I was and still am constantly catering to my children’s needs (as well as my husbands) and I hardly EVER get time to regain my sanity, I have a degree and I feel like I’m wasting it because I spent so much money and I have so much school debt so I feel that I need to work in the field that I love in order to accomplish what I love and pay my school loan. I am also not able to make money unless I work at home which still requires a lot of will power and patience. The bright side to staying at home is that I  get to see my children grow and mold them as I want and no one is expecting me  to turn something in at 5.

As a working mother, I would wake up and TRY not to wake up my children, work from 9 am to 9pm and then come home eat dinner with my family, get everyone ready for bed and go to sleep around 11ish. I hardly spent time with my children because I was always at work. I was home on the weekends but sometimes I worked on Saturdays. I have a housekeeper to take care of them but she doesn’t discipline my children so they have become spoiled because she does whatever they want. The bright side is that I was able to buy my children something every month, buy my self something and take care of my family financially, I was also able to have some me time during the day and socialize with others.

Again, I wish I could pick both, but I can’t, it’s either one or another.

So, from your experience and/or opinion, would you rather be a STAY AT HOME MOTHER or a WORKING MOTHER?

Comment below, I’d like to find out what you prefer and why.

Ma Salama,

Carmen