Umrah in Ramadan

First of all Ramadan Mubarak !

I always end up missing Gergion but it’s ok, there’s always next year…. or is there?

My husband and I flew to Makkah last week to make Umrah. Alhamdu lillah I hope all Muslims on this earth are able to make Umrah or Hajj once in their lifetime. We landed in Jeddah and drove to Makkah.

By the way, I highly suggest that you take a taxi, careem or Uber to Makkah because if you rent a car you will be stuck at the checkpoint as they don’t allow rentals in Makkah. We took Careem, it was fast, friendly and efficient.

Once we got into Makkah, we checked into our hotel room. We stayed in Al Kiswah Towers, it doesn’t have direct access to the Masjid Al Haram but they do provide loads of busses that can take you any time of the day. The hotel was really nice inside and the service was great. We had a view of the city of Makkah.

The hotels right by the masjid are very expensive but the again you have foot access to the masjid. Our cost was about 700 riyals.

We decided to make Umrah after Asr. Luckily we were Inside most of the time because me, fasting, and heat don’t do well together.

As soon as I entered the masjid, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace. The view was beyond spectacular. It is actually indescribable.

It’s amazing how so many people from different countries can come together in peace under one roof. This is the Ummah that we all strive for.

We walked around the Kabba 7 times and then back and forth from Staffa and Marwa 7 times.

Alhamdu lillah

By the end of the day, my calves and feet were killing me. Thai goes to show that I am very unfit.

We went back to the hotel after Maghreb and had amazing Indian takeout that was plentiful for only 50 riyals.

The next day, which was Thursday, we slept in, rested, and went to the masjid around asr to pray and then did some shopping at the clock tower mall.

We broke our fast at the masjid and I was crazy as to say that I wanted to go back to the mall and get Starbucks. There were SOOOO many people on the grounds that that time, shoulder to shoulder. We finally got to Starbucks and thank God that I did because that coffee was soo good it helped me stay up all night so that we could catch our plane the next morning.

It was an unforgettable experience but there is one thing that bothered me a bit. People would bring their small children, even babies and make Umrah. Ma Shaa allah they will be rewarded for that but for me, I could never do that, it was hard enough to even walk through the crowds of people and I could see those children having to suffer holding on tightly so they wouldn’t get lost. I would wait until my kids are at least double digits to make Umrah with them. That’s just me and my opinion. Everyone is different.

I would like to know your Umrah story, comment below and share your experience.

This is Makkah many years ago…

Makkah now….

Ramadan Mubarak to you and your family.

Ma Salama

In between

Good afternoon,

I am sorry that I have been away for some time.

So far, We have moved to Dammam. I work at an Aviation Academy, where I teach English to females and males for two years before they move onto flight training. My thyroid levels are back down, I am losing weight and I have just bought a new car.

We moved to a good neighborhood in Dammam. it’s close to the mall and it’s in a very convenient location. I am part of a big group of women married to Saudis and some of them are even half Saudi/ half American or another nationality. We get together from time to time. My older son has finally made a few friends. He will be going to school in September. I’m still trying to convince him to go to school here because it is much safer.

I started working for CAE Oxford Saudia last year. It has been a great experience and I actually love it there. We are all a big family so it is more like my second home. I started teaching males a couple of months ago which, at first I was hesitant to do so, but I find it easier than teaching females, They are much more relaxed, respectful and grateful. We are on break right now for Ramadan, thank God for that because  I told myself I would never work during Ramadan again.

As for my thyroid, my levels were at 40 and I found an amazing Tunisian Dr. who actually knew what she was doing. My levels are back down to .65 which is great to hear, Thanks be to God. She recommended that I start taking insulin to start losing weight since it is so hard to lose weight with hypothyroidism. It is supposedly a very popular weight loss scheme here in the middle east. So far, I have lost 2.5 kg’s in 4 days. I am happy because I desperately need to feel like myself again. I have gained so much weight in this country.

Finally, my car. I am a proud owner of a 2019 Dodge Durango RT.

It has some spunk to it and I am ok with that. I actually love it. For a woman in Saudi Arabia, you need to be seen in a nice vehicle and I don’t want to sound picky or self centered, but I don’t want to be seen in a car that I don’t like. Queens need to make statements and I have noticed that I am making statements.

I have yet to decide what comes next in my life, there is so much that I want to do but everything involves money.

If only money could grow on trees.

ma salama!

Carmen

 

 

 

Climbing Sand Dunes

The Desert

No, not the California’s Death Valley

I’m talking about the immense and stunning Arabian Desert.

There are many kinds of deserts in Saudi Arabia.

and

I LOVE THEM ALL!

I have seen the desert from trips to Dammam, Riyadh, Al Qassim, and the Arabian Gulf

They all differ somehow but they are all unique and breathtaking.

There are 3 main deserts in Saudi and they are called: Rub’ Al Khali ( The Empty Quarter), An Nufad, and Ad Dahna’.

Have you ever been to the desert?

It’s so much fun!

We sometimes go to the desert on weekends for some fresh air.

I usually pack some food, Arabic coffee and tea with dates.

When we get there, my children love to build forts with water, run around barefoot and slide down the sand dunes.

We like to walk around, climb the sand dunes and relax.

The sand feels so good under your feet and in your hands, it’s so soft, it feels better than any material you could wear ( in my own opinion). I feel free like a child in the desert, the world is mine for a few hours.

The desert is full of peace and serenity, you can actually clear your mind of all things here and that’s what I love since I’m not able to make it to the masjid most times.

We usually leave before it gets dark because it gets chilly at night and we don’t know what critters might be lurking around since we don’t have a tent to take cover in.

In Saudi, it’s common to go camping in the desert with your family, 4- wheeling, picnicking on the side of the road, or simply driving around.

It’s so much fun to see different types of camels along the way.

I absolutely LOVE camels! Really… I do.

**photo credit: Getty**

I have a big dream and I’m set on it, you might think I’m crazy as a Westerner but maybe you will too one day dream this once you visit this desert.

I dream that I will one day own land, build a small home, own a few camels and date trees in the DESERT.

So…

Have I convinced you yet?

You need to visit some sort of desert in your lifetime in order to hopefully experience what I do every time I come out here.

Now… back to sleep

Ma Salama,

Carmen

Would You Rather….

Would you rather be a stay at home mother or a working mother?

I have been both at separate times and I wish I could be both at one time.

What’s the difference?

As a stay at home mother, I was and still am constantly catering to my children’s needs (as well as my husbands) and I hardly EVER get time to regain my sanity, I have a degree and I feel like I’m wasting it because I spent so much money and I have so much school debt so I feel that I need to work in the field that I love in order to accomplish what I love and pay my school loan. I am also not able to make money unless I work at home which still requires a lot of will power and patience. The bright side to staying at home is that I  get to see my children grow and mold them as I want and no one is expecting me  to turn something in at 5.

As a working mother, I would wake up and TRY not to wake up my children, work from 9 am to 9pm and then come home eat dinner with my family, get everyone ready for bed and go to sleep around 11ish. I hardly spent time with my children because I was always at work. I was home on the weekends but sometimes I worked on Saturdays. I have a housekeeper to take care of them but she doesn’t discipline my children so they have become spoiled because she does whatever they want. The bright side is that I was able to buy my children something every month, buy my self something and take care of my family financially, I was also able to have some me time during the day and socialize with others.

Again, I wish I could pick both, but I can’t, it’s either one or another.

So, from your experience and/or opinion, would you rather be a STAY AT HOME MOTHER or a WORKING MOTHER?

Comment below, I’d like to find out what you prefer and why.

Ma Salama,

Carmen